That most ‘magic’ circle— your circle of influence Is it time for YOU to take action and draw a bigger circle of friends around yourself? Remember those circles on the whiteboard that kept you awake for a week the first time you saw them? I sure do… There… unveiled before my very eyes was the simplest, soundest, most beautiful business model that I had ever seen or considered!! “This can’t not work!”, I said to myself, excitement rising. Riding on the inspiration I figured out a way to come up with the start-up costs and enthusiastically sponsored four people into my ‘new’ business the first week. And then came to an abrupt STOP! It wasn’t that the enthusiasm flagged… I just couldn’t figure out who to talk to next. And it wasn’t until I called my sponsor to have a little chat that I heard about the ‘circle’ unmentioned at that first meeting… ‘my’ Circle of Influence— YIKES! NULL
Your circle of influence is, of course, that network of friends and acquaintances you’ve accumulated over the course of your lifetime who have grown to know, like, and trust you.
They are, at least somewhat, willing to listen to what you have to say and are interested in what you have going on in your life. Oh sure, I had a circle… and at times I even had a jaw-droppingly potent influence… “Mary K, helppppppp!“, came the little voice from afar. After careful searching it dawns on me to look up. “Good god, what made you think you could climb to the top of that 30 foot tree?!!??” I ask. “You said I could do anything I imagine! I was thinking about being a bird and now I’m scared… I can’t get down”, she sobbed. And on the same day, with the same circle, no influence at all… “Let’s clean up the blocks and play dough” I say, optimistically cheerful, and silence descends as the room quickly clears out. As a financially struggling single mother of three, operating an in-home Childcare Center, I really didn’t get out much and I couldn’t quite wrap my head around the notion that it was expected that I was just ‘magically’ meeting people all the time. My life was certainly not boring, and there was a steady stream of people through my door on a regular basis… it’s just that most of them were under the age of 10 and that had been the case pretty much 24/7 for years! If I had a dollar for every time my questions about this ‘circle of influence’ issue were blown off, I probably could have retired in my first two years of network marketing. But alas, it took me about that long to realize that I would have to figure it out as I went along. It finally occurred to me that the best thing to do was to take action and create more circles… and I decided I could ponder over the ‘influence’ factor later. So if you’re one of those people, for whatever reason, temperamental, financial, physical, etc, who finds it a challenge to get out and mix and mingle and who wonders, like I did, “How the heck do you meet people?” I’ve got to tell you… it’s a two-pronged issue and you can take action on either or both prongs! (If you’re not one of those people you’re probably scratching your head and wondering what the heck I’m blithering on about…to you I say, “Hi! Let’s talk. Want to share circles?” ;-)) One issue is meeting people, the other is developing meaningful relationships with the people you already know and the people you are just meeting. Perhaps you’ve seen that ‘memory jogger’ that lists all the various people you may have met through a variety of different professions. This can be helpful for some people, especially those who have had the resources to take advantage of the services of various professionals frequently enough to have developed something of a relationship with them. But what about the many network marketers who are just starting their business with the dream of someday being solvent enough to afford those very services? Here’s a simple action you can commit to today— one that will touch on both prongs.
Commit one hour a day to meeting and listening to people!
This is NOT a quick solution approach. This IS an approach that will bring you rewards and surprises beyond measure. And hey, you’ve got to start somewhere! Here’s a secret… you don’t have to hire a sitter, get a ride, brave inclement weather or worry about having the ‘right’ thing to wear. You do want to be consistent, show up visibly, and play in a way that contributes! And to make it easy to be consistent, you will be meeting people you share an interest with already. What I’m suggesting is meeting people online! Join groups with interests that match yours, attend webinars about topics of interest, sign up for tele-courses to learn about things you’ve always wanted to learn and join communities that are a match for your values, passion and purpose.
The key things here are to feel good, be sincerely interested and actually get involved in whatever you choose!
This means ask questions when you have them. Listen for the answers. Graciously thank people for their help. Pay attention to the conversations and when you respond, come from a place of authenticity. Share your experience when and if it enhances the conversation. Pay attention to what others are saying and don’t hesitate to explore their talents, interests and skills that go beyond the particular topic that brought you together. Become a connector… as you get to know more people you will be able to refer one person with a needed resource to another who is tapped into that resource. Loosen up and let yourself play full out! In the process, you may discover strengths, talents and assets you never realized you had and people are likely to start referring others to YOU as the one with the resources! So don’t get discouraged if today you don’t have a circle of influence large enough to grow a baseball team, not to mention a network marketing organization that provides a sustainable income… with a willingness to let loose your natural interest in and curiosity about people, as well as an awareness of things you enjoy doing, learning, and sharing about, you will be on your way if you take a couple of hours THIS WEEK and get involved! Namaste, Mary K ¸..• ´¨¨)) -:¦:- ¸.•´ .•´¨¨)) ((¸¸.•´ ..•´ -:¦:- -:¦:- ((¸¸.•´* Light EXPECT MIRACLES!