Decide on what you want for 2011. Release the “extra weight” and heal any hurts and regrets. Now you can freely create “This is the time of year people make resolutions they don’t plan to keep!” Did you know 95% of all New Year’s resolutions are either forgotten or broken by “Blue Monday”, the third Monday in January? If you want to achieve the New Years Resolutions and Goals that you are intending, there is a 5 step path to real success NULL
- Choose which goals you will fully commit to.
- Release any hurts, disappointments, resentments, fears and frustrations from this year. In order to move forward.
- Decide which goals you will de-commit from or let go of. (You know those goals that you set, year after year and never achieve. it may be time to drop them altogether.
- Complete, celebrate and acknowledge all last years and prior success to add momentum to the new year and activate your self confidence and courage.
- Create your new “blueprint” by writing your goals down, having a Vision Board a powerful tool to get absolute clarity on what you want and a real action plan to achieve your dreams in 2011.
Choose: Do you set the same goals year after year without really ever attaining them? If you do then you are giving your subconscious mind a very powerful message that you are not really wanting the goal you are setting. I am not talking about a long term goal that may take a few years to achieve, I am referring to the “frivolous” goals that are set with good intentions and then forgotten about or broken, each year. Do you know which goals they are for you? Is it a weight or fitness goal? A relationship goal? An educational one? A financial one? Which one of these do you just keep meaning to follow through on, but never manage to find the time or have the willpower to “Just Do It”. Your Subconscious mind knows that you are not serious about having what you say you want and therefore, it will continue to sabotage the result, not because its your worst enemy, but because it’s what it has been programmed for, year after year. Commit: Now, it’s time to commit or to de-commit from your previous goals and its OK either way.
When you fully commit to a goal; then you can be confident about being guided to take the right actions steps to achieve your goals.
The famous quote from W.H. Murray (1951) The Scottish Himalayan Expedition.
“…the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one, that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his (her) way.” Then he quotes Goethe “ Whatever you can do or dream you can begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.”
De-commit: When you de- commit from a goal then you can be assured that you will release old heavy “baggage” and guilt that has held you back and it will give you a sense of freedom and new energy to allow the new goals to be achieved more easily and effortlessly.
You will be amazed at how much energy is “free-ed” up, once you actually let go of the old goals that you have been “should-ing” on your self about.
In fact in some cases the mere fact of letting go and releasing the obligation and worry about the goal, gives it the space to manifest anyway. Psychologists say that we can only consciously pay attention to 7 plus or minus 2 things at any one time, if there is more “on our plates” our attention units can become overwhelmed. This is explained in Jack Canfield’s recent work, “Success Principles”, where he mentions this, discovered by a German psychologist, “who noticed that a waitress, who had not yet had the bill paid, could remember everything that was ordered for the meal even if there were eight people at the table, but as soon as the bill was paid,she could not remember half of it, which is good, as her mind was able to become “present” to focus on the next thing.” What will you de -commit to so that you can free up your mind’s attention units for the year? Release: Hurts, disappointments, resentments, fears and frustrations from this and previous years in order to move forward.
Just because you have let go of the goal doesn’t necessarily mean that you automatically release the pain attached to its “failure.” Sometimes just being aware will enable you to release the negative feelings around the goal, for some it will be like a breath of fresh air and many will sigh with relief.
For those who need some support with this, there are many methods that can be used to release the negative attachments; Life Coaching, Hypnotherapy, Values Assessments to name a few. Complete: Acknowledge yourself for anything you have achieved, celebrate it and declare it complete! As you have heard now, so many times: “Like attracts like”, “Success breeds success”.
More success will come your way, when you “feel” successful, but you cannot feel successful if you do not look for and acknowledge your successes.
The success can be major or minor, it doesn’t matter. What matters is that you acknowledge yourself for whatever you did do. Write down now, your success’s from last year and celebrate them. Create: Now that you have decided on what you want for 2011. Released the “extra weight” and heal any hurts and regrets. Now you can freely create a new (or update your old) “Blueprint” – your written goals and your Vision board the visual representation of your goals, to give your mind and brain the clearest vision of what you really want. © 2010 Barbara Pellegrino
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